Forgive: In a relationship with a loved one, we become very vulnerable and easily taken to heart any troubles. A sidelong glance, a mean word, not enough warm embrace, silence in response to love SMS. If we could look into the soul of your partner and find out what’s going on in his head, it would be much easier to understand and forgive hurtful actions. But we have only intuitively to compromise and decide to aggravate the quarrel or find a way to make peace and live happily ever after.
Not to dwell on resentment
Stop constantly thinking about the subject of your quarrel, thinking of the unpleasant moments over and over again. This will only escalate the situation and develop emotional depression. Do not chew over the bad thoughts and feelings, do not tell friends about his offense, and try not to focus on the negative, otherwise, you will be difficult then to disengage from the fights and tune in to a peaceful way.
Appease your inner lioness
When we hurt, about forgiveness, we think immediately. First and foremost, we are flooded with a thirst for revenge. In us struggle with conflicting emotions: the desire to stab the offender and the painful realization that all is not critical, given your love. The lion who is eager to fight for revenge, much stronger than the voice of reason, so it is important to appease, and to appease the good memories of those bright moments in your history together.
To take into account extraneous factors
It may be hard to understand, but the reason your argument could be completely extraneous factors: a tough day at work, an unpleasant conversation with parents, disagreement with a friend, a fight with a grumpy driver on the road. Anything could trigger your loved one to the actions that he has committed by inertia. Try to take into account and not to judge him too harshly.
To admit guilt
In any conflict there are two sides, and how would not like it, but you have to admit that your argument is a fraction of your guilt. Be honest with yourself and analyze at what point it all went wrong? Maybe you are somewhere were rude, not attentive enough to his feelings, or could not resist the temptation to stab him and hit a nerve? Ask forgiveness for this from a loved one. When you divide the responsibility for the quarrel, it will be easier to survive both.
To understand what is important
Define priorities: what you want to achieve? If the person you are not very important, you can give vent to their pride, and offended further. If you want a man for a common future, if you care about him, find the strength to let go of resentment and to send forces to restore relations.
No fighting does not happen the relationship will always be tense moments and will say hurtful words, but remember that overcoming those challenges will only make you stronger. If you allow strife to kill your feelings, so they were not so strong to hold you together.
